So I've been feeling particularly lonely lately... The ONE good friend I had down here is so self involved that she doesn't even notice that she's hurting my feelings. And it's ok... I get it.... She's got a LOT going on. She's in this awesome new relationship with a man that makes her VERY happy, she just moved into a new house, and just got a new job. I'm really, REALLY happy for her. I spent 3 days helping her move & being gitty with her about all the amazing new things that are happening in her life.
Then I told her 4 weeks ago that Jon and I are transferring to Cali at the end of this month & that I wanted to spend some time with her before we moved. So I have invited her to damn near EVERYTHING that I've been doing - even things I'm not doing. I've invited her to the gym, to the bar, to dinner, to parties we're having, etc... And I've given her ample notice, so it's not like it's a last minute thing either. And EVERY time she has had one excuse or another - I've spent damn near a month trying to spend time with her and have been shot down every time. She moved 8 minutes away from me, so it's not like it's far or anything. After today... I'm done trying... I've deleted her from my phone & have pretty much written her off.
What hurts is that she is the ONLY real friend I've had down here other than the friend's Jon & I have at the boat and it's not like I can just invite them out to do something when Jon doesn't feel like going out. Ricky & I have gone out together, Dave & I have gone out together, but we live together so it's not like I just called up Bogs or Mike & asked him if he wanted to go out somewhere. Altho, Mike still owes me a ghost ride, lol.
My feelings are just hurt that the ONE girl-friend I had down here is so wrapped up in her own life to give two shits about how I might feel or that she may infact never see me again...
FamousNyx's Insane Asylum
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
The Word 'Incompetent' Comes to Mind
I don't even know where to start with this one. I do ALL the cooking, ALL the cleaning and rarely get thanked for it. Jon & Ricky did the dishes yesterday 'cos I was sick. But the point is, they shouldn't have had to. Maria cooked last night and should have cleaned up after herself. The same thing I do EVERY fucking night. And not just at night, at breakfast and dinner as well. Like if Maria cooks and makes a holy fucking mess of the kitchen I am the one everyone looks at to clean up the mess. I am not anyone's mother. As much as I enjoy being an 'actual domestic Goddess' (not someone who claims they are but end up doing a horrible fucking job at it) it's nice to have ppl at least say thank you. Which I will admit, Dave and Ricky are REALLY good at making sure they thank me for doing so much and I really appreciate it. It'd be nice if Jon would sometimes... It just seems that every time I don't feel well I get looked at as if I'm lazy or incompetent - when I go 2 days of being ill and the house goes to shit, I'm the incompetent one...fuck that...
Bats in the Belfry Type Relationship
WTF am I doing?? I again... picked up and left my life behind for Jon... again, like an idiot. In the few months that we've been back together he no longer has ANY intention of marrying me and no longer has ANY intention of having a family with me, so why am I with him? I keep asking myself that. He doesn't do anything for me. All he does is pay my way through life and fucks my brains out. That's not a partnership. I cook, I clean, I do whatever he asks of me, and all I want is something resembling a future with him and I don't even get that. So I'm just gonna do me... He's taking advantage of me emotionally, so why not take advantage of him financially. I'll just use him while I go to school, start my career, and make myself happy while he makes himself happy being waited on hand and foot while playing SC2 and not even noticing how far away we're drifting. Then eventually someone will come along ans sweep me off my feet, I'll leave him & he won't even fight for me 'cos he's a fucking pansy AND on top of all things he'll wonder why...
I want to fix things, but at the same time I don't see the fucking point. He's made things pretty fucking clear. I just don't know. I could try, but nothing is going to change... I just feel so alone...
I want to fix things, but at the same time I don't see the fucking point. He's made things pretty fucking clear. I just don't know. I could try, but nothing is going to change... I just feel so alone...
Sticks and stones may break her bones; but words could make her destroy you...
1. WATER…I can’t say it enough…WaterWaterWaterWater Water…Any questions?
2. Three words: Crest White Strips. Here’s the deal. You’re supposed to wear these on your upper and lower teeth for 30 minutes each, 2x a day. And you definitely cannot eat while you’ve got these babies on. You can have up to 2 hours a day of literally not being able to eat! If you put them on about 15 minutes before dinner then you can’t eat dinner with your family and they’ll have to let you eat on your own later. It’s perfect!
3. Ride out the hour. When you start to get hungry, just tell yourself that you’ll wait until the end of the hour to eat anything. That way you’ll have time to think about whether or not you really want those calories, and you’ll also feel really powerful since you’ve proved to yourself that you can go for that time without food.
4. Move around. Bounce your feet, wiggle your fingers, every little calorie counts.
5. Feel your bones. Just wrap your fingers around your wrists or along your collarbone. This will help you realize that you’re making progress and will also deter you from eating because you don’t want to lose those bones, do you?
6. Pick a time every night that you will not eat after. Most people recommend that you not eat after 6 pm, but if your family makes you sit down with them at 6:30 or so, this obviously isn’t practical. So choose a time that works for you.
5. Feel your bones. Just wrap your fingers around your wrists or along your collarbone. This will help you realize that you’re making progress and will also deter you from eating because you don’t want to lose those bones, do you?
6. Pick a time every night that you will not eat after. Most people recommend that you not eat after 6 pm, but if your family makes you sit down with them at 6:30 or so, this obviously isn’t practical. So choose a time that works for you.
7. Frequent Pro-Ana websites. Do you think you’ll want to eat after reading trigger-happy quotes and looking at skinny models?
8. Keep your wallet at home. If you don’t have money, you can’t buy food.
9. Exercise before you eat. It will give you more time to think over what you really want to eat, and when you do eat you’ll be more comfortable with it since you just burned some calories.
10. Get your sleep. Not sleeping will slow down your metabolism and will make you more likely to over-eat. 11. Buy clothes one size smaller than what you’re currently wearing. Try on these clothes on to keep yourself on track.
12. Okay, this is a little different than what other pro-ana sites may say. Instead of lowering the temperature while you sleep, raise the temperature. Sleep in sweats and under all of your covers. You’ll sweat and lose water weight…It’s not “real” weight, but you will feel great when you get a look at the scale after getting out of bed.
13. Follow the “Thin Commandments”
If you aren’t thin, you’re ugly.
Being thin is way more important than being healthy.
You must do anything to make yourself look thinner.
Thou shall not eat without feeling guilty.
Thou shall not eat fattening foods without punishing yourself accordingly.
Thou shall always count calories.
The scale is everything.
Losing=Life, Gaining=Death
You must become thin.
Being thin and perfect are signs of true determination.
If you aren’t thin, you’re ugly.
Being thin is way more important than being healthy.
You must do anything to make yourself look thinner.
Thou shall not eat without feeling guilty.
Thou shall not eat fattening foods without punishing yourself accordingly.
Thou shall always count calories.
The scale is everything.
Losing=Life, Gaining=Death
You must become thin.
Being thin and perfect are signs of true determination.
14. Save the money you would spend on food to buy yourself something that you REALLY want!
15. Focus on what you’re eating for the first few bites. After that it gets pretty boring, don’t you think? 16. Work on your posture. When you sit and stand up straight you look taller AND thinner. You also burn more calories.
17. Leave traces of food that you would have eaten. For example, when I was in high school my mom made me eat breakfast. So I would get up a little earlier, go to the kitchen, make some toast, fix some cereal, and get out a yogurt. Toast the bread (leave the toaster out), put crumbs on the plate, pour some cereal and throw it down the garbage disposal, do the same with the yogurt. If the food isn’t there, your parents will think that you ate it!
18. If you’re in college, schedule classes around meal times. You can’t eat in class, can you?
19. Do something you enjoy instead of eating. Take a bath, play with a pet, read a book, exercise, do whatever works for you.
20. Peppermints supposedly curb your appetite. But be careful with this…Each peppermint has 20 calories.
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Tried and True Tips and Tricks
*Drink water! This is the #1 rule for both ana and mia. It fills you up when you are hungry and makes purging easier. The general rule is also that hot water fills you up more and ice cold water helps you to burn more calories since it lowers your body temperature so your body has to work harder to stay warm.
Pro Ana Tips are give for you to use in a safety way, if you already are to skinny do not try any of those.If you a re a bit chunky it will help you lose some weight.
*Chew sugar free gum or mints constantly. I am never without one or the other in my mouth. The benefits are endless: it kills cravings, keeps your mouth full so you can’t binge, burns calories by chewing, peppermint flavors suppress appetites, and prevents bad breath if you are in ketosis.
*Tea of Coffee are an Ana’s best friend. Drink with NO CREAM OR MILK and artificial sweetener ONLY. Tea is especially great because it comes in so many different flavors and is calorie free, as opposed to black coffee which has an albeit small amount. The caffeine is also great for raising metabolism.
*Cut food into tiny pieces. Put your fork down between bites. Chew everything a certain number of times. Eat in patterns. Develop systems of eating. All of this helps to make food a mere object rather than the devil itself.
*Take a sip of water or other calorie-free liquid between each bite. You feel full much faster, partially because the body often mistakes thirst for hunger, so by drinking, one actually reduces the amount of food their body needs to eat.
*If you are really craving something specific and are on the verge of a binge, go into the kitchen, prepare it, and then eat it-but do not swallow! Chew it slowly, enjoy it, and then spit it out. Immediately after that rinse your mouth with water at least three times before swallowing a sip so you do not accidentally ingest any calories.
*If you are about to binge, pick a safe food, preferably negative calorie (pickles, celery, blueberries, etc.) and eat it non-stop for up to half an hour, taking a sip of water with each bite. Often you will not be able to even get up to half an hour, and you will be full so the desire to binge will be gone, but you haven’t eaten anything “bad.”
*No Sugar Added, Fat-Free Fudge Pops. These are the reason I am alive. They have 40 calories in one and taste exactly like chocolate ice cream. If you must binge, try eating a whole box of these. There are 560 calories in a box of 14, and they are easy to purge.
*Do not ever eat anything you do not know the exact amount of calories in. Sometimes you can fool yourself into thinking you’ve eaten less than you have. Remember, numbers do not lie.
*Track progress by measurements and not the scale alone. Scales are affected by everything from the weather to the time of day, but the numbers on a measuring tape are affected by nothing except the actual size of your body.
*Keep a food diary. Start your own pro-ana page. Make an ed scrapbook. Anything that keeps your mind on not eating is a good thing.
*When you want to eat, exercise for at least 15 minutes first. I like to put on nice lyrical music, usually Charlotte Martin or sometimes classical, and do bare work. It not only distracts you from eating but burns calories and benefits your body as well.
*Buy a pair of expensive jeans at least one size too small. Try them on right before you eat. You will either not want to eat or will eat less. When you lose enough weight to fit into them properly, reward yourself by buying another pair, again one or two sizes too small.
*Eat low-calorie foods with very intense flavors. Often times you just crave taste. Chili peppers, anything pickled, peppermints, and very concentrated bullion (make it with half the water recommended) are all good options.
*Make a list of foods that you are absolutely never ever allowed to eat. Write it down and keep it somewhere accessible. On this list should be things like doughnuts, cake, cream, soda, fatty meats like duck, and any dairy product not made with skim milk. If you really like any of these things and find it hard to resist, prepare it, but then put something disgusting all over it (like pouring vinegar on a cream-filled doughnut). Take a bite. You will find you have totally lost your taste for the food.
*Diet pills are amazing, but you have to be careful. Try to eat something small and safe when you take one, like an apple or a small piece of grilled chicken. If you don’t then you will get awful side effects. The same goes for taking more than the recommended amount. I have taken four stacker 3 pills with no food and almost ended up dead because of it. Use, but with caution.
*If you must go out to eat, go to the restaurant’s web page before hand, and find something safe to eat. Do not eat bread or appetizers. Order a salad with dressing on the side if everyone else is having appetizers. If there is nothing safe on the menu most places will make you a plain piece of grilled chicken or fish if you ask.
*Never drink soda. There is absolutely no reason to. Even diet soda will actually make you look bloated and weigh a little more
PRO ANA TIPS
Tips and Advice
- Drink one glass of water every hour. It will make you feel full.
- Drink ice cold water. Your body will burn calories just getting the water to a normal temperature to digest. Also it is great for your complexion.
- Drink 3 cups of green tea daily. It will help boost your metabolism, plus its anti-oxidants make your skin look great.
- Take vitamins daily. Do not take vitamins on an empty stomach, otherwise they have nothing to catalyze with.
- Eat ice or gum when hungry. This will make your body think it had food without the calories.
- Do aerobics until you want to faint.
- Eat spicy foods. They raise your metabolism.
- Take cold showers because your body will burn calories to heat you back up.
- Brush your teeth constantly so you won’t be tempted to eat afterwards.
- Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Snap it when you want to eat.
- Clean something gross (toilet, litter box, boyfriend’s closet) when you want to eat. You will not want to eat after cleaning a litter box.
- Keep your hair in good condition so no one will suspect anything.
- Get a job so you’ll have to work through meal times.
- Exercise twice the amount of calories eaten.
- Use smaller plates and utensils so it seems like you ate more.
- Instead of diet soda, drink carbonated water; the gas in it helps you feel full without any of the calories. To kick it up a notch add a splash on lemon for taste and to boost the fat burning down a glass of ice water while you’re brewing your morning coffee.
- This has been working like a GEM to me, apart from drinking ice-cold water, suck on ice-cubes. These will numb your tongue and all food tastes the same after that – you won’t crave for a thing! If you don’t require your taste buds to sense your great-tasting food, you can try numbing your tongue before your meals as well, so that you eat based on how filling the food makes you feel, rather than how yummy the food is. However, if you require the taste/smell of the foods to keep you sane, stick with it and only numb your tongue in between meals (especially near snack-attack times or supper times).
- Stay away from sandwiches! They are just about the worst kind of food when you are on a diet. First, they pack a lot of food into a small space, leaving you relatively unsatisfied for the number of calories you’re consuming. Second, they are designed to be eaten quickly – a big no-no for anyone trying to lose weight. Third, they tend to come with a lot of empty calories – sauces, too much meat filling, etc. And finally, sandwiches treat bread as a vehicle for food, not as food in itself, thus adding a lot of unnecessary calories to what might otherwise be a sensible meal. If you absolutely must eat on the run and need a sandwich, make sure to use a low-calorie bread (Weight Watchers whole grain will set you back about 50 calories per slice), use lean meats, stay away from sauces (especially mayonnaise!), and pack your sandwich with lots of leafy vegetables (baby spinach is my favourite).
- Chew eat bite of food thoroughly and then take a sip of water between bites. You will feel full quicker and will not eat as much.
- Say you are going to eat at a friend’s house and instead go for a walk. You will be burning calories instead of taking them in.
- Buy clothes that you can’t fit into and hang them wear you can see them. This will motivate you to lose weight to fit into them.
- Sleep at least six hours a day. If you get less than six this can lower your metabolism by 15%.
- If you start to feel hungry do sit ups or punch yourself in the stomach. You will not feel hungry anymore.
- Pamper yourself! Give yourself a facial, paint your nails, anything to make you feel pretty.
- Make yourself a snack, but instead of eating it throw it away. Leave the dirty dishes where your parents can find them. They will think you ate.
- Prepare a list of excuses as to why you can’t eat - You’re sick, you’re a vegetarian, allergic, etc. You’d be amazed at how many good excuses there are.
- Get out of your house! If you’re not sitting around then people can’t start shit with you about not eating.
- Join a pro-ana group or start your own website. Anything that will keep you motivated.
- Make an ANA scrapbook with pics of skinny models. Right down all the reasons you want to lose weight. Keep track of everything you eat. Look at it daily for thinsperation.
- Here are tips on water: Drinking ice cold water makes your body burn more calories, because your body has to work harder to raise the temperature of the ice cold water to your body temperature (which is around 98 degrees)
- Drinking an 8-ounce cup of ice-cold water burns approx. 8 calories depending on your BMI
- Drinking 8 glasses of iced water a day and burning about 8 calories for each glass = 64 calories burned per day
- Over a year you can imagine the calorie loss…. 64 calories burned per day equals almost 6 pounds of fat lost!
- And remember, the more you drink the more you lose, Christina Ricci once said that she drinks 4 litres of water a day!! (please don’t go over 4 though, it can be dangerous as much more than that will dilute the sodium content in your blood and can lead to a stroke - try 4 litres, you’ll have GLORIOUS skin)
- Keep good posture, burns 10% more calories when you sit up straight.
- Instead of food, buy something else, a new shirt, flowers, jewelry etc.
- Make a list of all the “bad” foods that you crave and tend to binge on. Each day, pick one to take out of your diet that you absolutely, no matter what, cannot eat again. Take one off the list each day until there are no more bad foods you can have.
- Avoid alcohol! A shot of liquor has 100-120 calories, a glass of wine has 80 calories, a lite beer has 110-120 calories, and a regular beer has 140-170 calories.
- Never eat anything bigger than about a cup, your stomach will expand and then you’ll get hungry more.
- Eat in front of a mirror naked. See how much you can eat then!
- The smell of coffee is suppose to suppress appetite.
- Wear perfectly applied lip gloss. It makes you more aware of what’s going in your mouth. Also, flavored ones help with cravings.
- Paint, the smell of paint craves hunger.
- Have 6 small meals a day. Take 2 apples, and split them so you can make 6 meals out of them. That way your body will be tricked into thinking it’s eating more.
- Low calorie hot chocolate curbs chocolate cravings, and makes you feel full.
- Take a picture of yourself wearing a bathing suit or something equally revealing, look at it when you want to eat.
- It takes 20 minutes for the brain to realize the stomach is full.
- When you get hunger pains curl into a ball, it makes them go away.
- If you’re a smoker and hungry, light up a cigarette. It curbs your appetite.
- Eat lots of fiber. It makes you feel full and takes fat with it out of your body. The natural cleansing helps improve both your energy level and overall feeling of wellness.
- Before you dig into that cake, bag of chips, candy, or whatever, take a deep breath and count to 100. Usually by the time you get to 100 you will have convinced yourself that you don’t really want it.
- When you’re hungry chug 2 glasses (or how many you need) of straight water. It’ll make you so full and nauseous you will have completely lost your appetite.
- Celery actually burns calories. Every hour eat a stalk of it. Not only will it fill you up, but it will also get your metabolism kicking.
- Weigh yourself before and after every time you eat. Not only will it eliminate unnecessary eating, but it will make you want to eat less when you see the numbers creep up.
- Avoid all nuts – they are the most trickily high-calorie foods ever. 5 macadamia nuts are a caloric equivalent to one very large apple (WITH skin).
- Avoid dairy, especially cheeses. Always choose low-fat milk or skim milk. Half a cup can stave away hunger. Take calcium tablets with your meals.
- Obviously, no chocolates and chips.
- Avoid dried fruits – eat the fresh fruit equivalent instead!!
- Pile up on your veggies, and eat only pinches of the chicken/fish mentioned earlier.
- Carbs are OK but don’t go overboard. Try cooked rice the size of your fist. If you must have noodles, don’t go for those mixed in sauce. Always go for soupy noodles (clear soups are best) and eat with chopsticks if you can.
- Try to select less sugary fruit. Examples of sugary and starchy fruit include grapes, bananas, kiwi, mango, papaya. Have apples, pears, oranges instead. Cut the fruit and share with the rest of your family. Preserve with sprinkled salt and store in your fridge.
- Replace oil with unsweetened applesauce, just use the exact same amount of applesauce as you would oil. 1 cup of oil has 1909 calories, while 1 cup of applesauce has 105 calories. It works best in sweet baked goods. http://www.ehow.com/how_4535777_substitute-applesauce-oil.html
- Secondly – Try using egg substitute for eggs, whole eggs have around 75 calories, and 1 egg’s worth of egg substitute has around 30 calories. They usually work quite well, and unless it’s egg based doesn’t change the taste.
- Lastly, use lite milk instead of full cream, which is about 130 calories a cup. OR even better, use lite SOY milk which is about 60 calories a cup.
- This may sound a little odd but if I have a goal weight or something motivating me to stick to dieting I’ll write it on my legs, or stomach or something. This works best during winter when no one else will see your legs, etc. I’ll write my goal and every time I change clothes I see it and am reminded. It’s another way to stay strong. Just make sure not to do it where others can see.
- If you think your new eating habits have concerned a friend, family member, etc., a good thing to do to help convince them that you’re your old, bigger self (ha ha) would be to eat fast food! You can go to a fast food restaurant, get a salad (sans dressing, of course) and a water, consume the food and drink, and then leave the bag lying around anywhere where you are sure someone will see it (your car, table, top of the trash). It’s also good to ask the person serving you where you got the food to put the water in one of the place’s regular drink cups. Then, you have more evidence (;. When someone sees a fast food bag on your table, they’ll think “Hm, so-and-so can’t be trying to lose weight or get thinner–they eat junk!”
- Before eating your meals, eat a raw whole fruit and/or drink 250ml of water. Intake of water speeds up your metabolism, also RAW fruits are harder to digest than cooked vegetables/fruits thus your body will break down a lot more sugar storage in your body to digest these. You will be pretty full after a whole fruit (think apple or orange) and water so you’ll be less likely to eat your actual meal.
- Sprinkle Benefiber in your water, tea, or yogurt. It’s high fibre will fill you up and keep you skinny
- Cut out all drinks except brewed green tea and water. After a week, you’ll really lose the taste for such “flavored liquids”, I swear.
- Chocolate Ovaltine. It’s only 20 calories per tablespoon (enriched with vitamins and minerals). I’ll put two tbs in a glass of unsweetened vanilla almond milk for a creamy, rich dessert or snack for less than 100 calories.
- If you have a retainer, wear it. It’s especially helpful when you think you’re going to binge, or when you’re just under your calorie limit, or between meals.
- Be careful who you tell. It’s great to have online friends – in fact, I would encourage it – but unless you’re 100% positive that your friends or boyfriend/girlfriend will understand or help, DON’T TELL THEM. But, if you’re sure a friend or your boyfriend/girlfriend will be supportive, ask them to help you stick to your plan and meet your goals.
- Read the nutritional information. Remember, fat-free does not mean calorie-free. Also keep an eye on fiber content. Get as much fiber into your diet as you can, while cutting fat and calories.
- Don’t eat a lot at once. Spread your food throughout the day. This will help to avoid binging and keep your metabolism going.
- If you like to drink alcohol, you’ll like this. Make a rule: You can only drink every time you lose 2lbs. So, if you lose 4lbs a week, you can drink Friday and Saturday night. However, if you only lose 2lbs a week, you only get to drink one night.
- Do not eat in front of the computer or TV. This distracts you from recognizing you’re full.
- Save the money you would have spent on that meal in a jar. Save it in a bottle instead and watch it grow.
- Stay away from Slim-fast and other so-called “healthy” candy bars and shakes… one look at the nutrition facts will tell you why. With all the carbs and excess calories you may as well go eat a freaking pie or something. Not to mention the ridiculous prices… save yourself the money, and the calories.
- Instead of buying food, buy yourself flowers. Food is depressing, but flowers make you happy.
- When having cravings drink a couple glasses of water with slices of lemons and count to 100 and it should go away.
- Eating 100 cals 4 times a day is better than eating a 400 cal meal.
- An occasional binge doesn’t hurt, in fact it’s quite beneficial if you have reached a plateau (stopped losing weight). Your body will think you have stopped starving yourself, and you will drop at least a pound overnight! Just don’t binge too regularly!
- Someone told me that if you take a pure cold bath for 15-30 min and lower your body temp, your body burns around 200 cals for every degree it has to raise itself to reach a normal body temperature. This person tried it, a 30 min bath lowered their temp about 3-4 degrees
- Always remove skin from fruit like apples and pears.
- Never have egg yolks, only egg whites.
- Avoid all fried foods.
- Avoid all red meats.
- Stick to chicken or fish (steamed) for protein.
- Learn to LOVE that empty feeling in your stomach. Trust me, you’ll feel disgusting when it starts filling up again.
- If you must eat, ONLY eat when people are watching you. All other calories are eaten in vain.
- Pay close attention to other girl’s bodies. Pick them apart – try to find faults even with the best bodies. Then apply these high standards to yourself.
- Live by the scale and the measuring tape. Unlike people, they will not lie to you.
- Sleep at least 6 hours a night. Less than 6 hours sleep a night stimulates appetite by 15%
- Buy tiny little clothes – the nicer, the better. Get that sexy cocktail dress or the expensive designer jeans you’ve wanted but buy them one or two sizes too small. You’ll be inspired to slim down so you can fit into them. Try them on regularly to monitor your progress.
- Keep in mind: if your skinny friend eats a lot, that DOES NOT mean you can, too.
- Never eat anything bigger than your fist. If you have to stretch your lips, it’s TOO BIG.
- DIET SODA! It’s amazing – it’ll fill you up and after a while, it actually tastes better than regular.
- Compete. Compare your body to your friends’ and co-workers’ bodies. Are you the thinnest? If not, why not? If you are, think about how jealous they are of you.
- Eat on lighter colored plates whenever you can, you will eat more on a darker plate.
- When you’re exercising, listen to music or watch TV. It helps pass the time and you exercise more without realizing it.
- Take a Niacin (Vitamin B3) supplement. If you don’t get enough through your diet everyday (15mg or so), a deficiency can decrease the efficiency of your metabolism (and immune system). It’s also good for keeping your skin and hair healthy; detoxing because it promotes more blood flow to your skin and organs; and promotes good cholesterol as well as nervous system. Though it will turn you red so take it before bed or buy the no flush kind.
- Exercise every day, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. Take 5-10 minute chunks out of the day and do 100 crunches, or run in place, or take the dog for a walk. These shorts burts of exercise will help fuel your metabolism and burn calories. They’re easier to swallow than a longer exercise regime.
- Resist the temptation to take a nap after a large meal. If you stay awake a few hours longer and take a 20 minute walk, your body will use some of the extra calories for energy instead of storing them as fat.
- When eating out, order something small and inexpensive. Usually, inexpensive means less. If you order a salad, make sure you skip the dressing.
- Start to hate butter. Even a tiny amount can have excessive calories.
- Sit up straight. You’ll burn at least ten percent more calories sitting upright than reclining
- Eat slowly. Put your fork down between each bite. If you’re right-handed, try eating with your left, or vice-versa. You’ll eat a lot less this way.
- Thinspo is your best friend. You think you’ve lost weight? Check out some fashion models or skinny celebrities online and you’ll realize that you can probably do better.
- Chew sugar-free gum. It curbs your appetite and keeps your mouth busy so you won’t want to put anything else in it. Gives you fresh breath too!
- Eat to live, not live to eat. Food is about sustenance to feed your body, not a substance to heal your soul. If you feel that you eat not to fulfill a physical need, but an emotional one, try to look within yourself to figure it out.
- When eating with others, cut your food up into really tiny pieces and move it around the plate. It makes it look like you ate a lot more than you really did.
- When you feel the urge to eat, start by drinking a cup or two of water or a zero-calorie drink. See how you feel after five minutes. If you are still hungry, grab a low calorie snack.
- If you are going to eat dinner, have a snack 20 minutes before. The secret is to eat foods with “good fat” such as nuts or avocado slices. It takes 20 minutes for your stomach to tell your brain that you’re satisfied
- For those that exercise at home (or have privacy)–exercise in your underwear. They are far less forgiving than workout pants and can really motivate you to go for an extra ten minutes.
- Eating five walnuts or eight almonds (approximately 65 calories) stimulates production of cholecystokinin, a hormone that slows your stomach from emptying so you feel fuller much longer
- If you’re feeling super starved, eat a handful of popcorn. Air-pop it and eat it slowly. Do not use butter or salt. This will help fill you up, while only setting you back about 30 calories
- Try to only eat in one room in your house. The kitchen is usually the best place. Make sure you keep your bedroom strictly a food-free zone, this is your best sanctuary when times get hard.
- Keep a food journal or diary. Writing down what you eat and the calories can really encourage you to eat less. Look at it often and frequently. You don’t realize how many calories you consume in a day until you are forced to look at it – it will make you sick. Also, you can add a calorie counter gadget to your blog which is very handy!
- Drink ice cold water. Your body has to burn calories to keep you body temperature up!
- Throw away all clothes that are too big for you – don’t keep them for “just in case”.
- When you are hungry, boil or microwave water and put a chicken or beef broth cube in. They’re only 15-20 calories and the taste makes you feel like you ate.
- Drink water with the juice of one lemon before every meal. Citrus shrinks your stomach and is a natural appetite suppressant. And you get your Vitamin C which is a powerful detoxifier and helps strengthen your skin.
- Put a mirror in front of your refrigerator or pantry – see if you’ll be able to pig out then!
- Protein is super important because it helps to keep your muscles functioning properly and your heart is a big muscle that needs help when keeping super skinny. If you don’t want to eat a lot of it, get some canned tuna and eat that. Fish is naturally low calorie anyway but the taste of the tuna will make you want to eat less of it!
- When in restaurants, ONLY order off the appetizer menu, and ONLY eat half of it. For example, if you order an appetizer of chicken wings, only eat 3 of the 6. If anyone asks, just say you’re not that hungry.
- When eating at home, eat your meals on salad plates. This way you’re consuming less. No meal should EVER be more than 400-500 calories.
- Brush your teeth frequently – at least 3-4 times a day. Not only will this give you a great smile and keep your breath fresh, but you’re much less likely to want a snack after brushing your teeth.
- My favourite skinny tip is sugar-free jelly! It comes in so many flavours and it’s only 10 calories per serving. If you add in some plain gelatine but no extra water it makes it firmer, and somehow better. The kind I use only adds about 5 calories per serving. It makes nails grow faster too! Sometime I’ll add two teaspoons of cayenne pepper for an extra metabolism kick–spicy, sweet and delicious!
- Drink some cider vinegar – it curbs your appetite, speeds up metabolism and detoxes your liver and basically flushes you out.
- One thing to help you lose weight fast is detoxing. Some claim to have lost up to 20 pounds through detox. There are many ways and some are inexpensive – ways that won’t get your family and friends raising eyebrows when they realize you are having colon irrigation etc. These are natural ways which include things you can get from the supermarket or in your pantry.
- Put on dark-colored lipstick. If you do, you’re not going to eat much – maybe not at all, because you don’t want to get smudges over your lips and face or on your teeth. Apply more lipstick as the day goes on. Stick to this plan and you’ll have the perfect excuse for not eating!
- There are some very simple things you can do to burn calories, for example, make the bed every morning. Also, get a picture of a model you would like to look like and every time you feel like eating something look at the picture – it will stop you from eating.
- Always check the food labels and calories on everything you eat! Many labels are confusing and tricky so it is important to understand what all the claims mean. Something that is labeled fat-free might contain zero grams of fat but can still be loaded with lots of sugars. These can be hidden calories that we might overlook when reading certain labels.
- Thinspiration is key to skinny success. Keep a Thinspiration notebook and thinspo pictures everywhere you can. Keep a little picture in your purse for a constant reminder. Also, keep one right behind your credit card so that you are reinforced each time that you buy something, especially food. When traveling or when you will be away from home for a long time, bring your thinspiration notebook with you. Take a look when you feel the temptations – they are usually worse when you are away from home
- Eat what you crave OCCASIONALLY and eat it in MODERATION! Those two points are key here! For example, if you are craving chocolate cake don’t buy an entire chocolate cake – the temptation is way too significant and you’ll eat more than you should. Instead, buy a single serving piece and only eat half. Allow yourself to enjoy the things you love and crave. Deprivation leads to binging.
- A good rule is to limit yourself to one to three bites of anything you crave. For example, whenever I go to a buffet I get one piece or serving of everything I want. This usually means that my plate ends up being completely full. Because I have a fast metabolism, I am able to have one bite of each thing and then throw the rest away. Another upside to this is that people will never question you about your weight because they will see you with a lot of food on your plate and at least some of it with bites eaten. It’s kind of expensive but TOTALLY WORTH IT!
- Here’s a trick if you have friends that frequently offer you some of their food and then get really suspicious when you say no; then they try and force you to eat it even more. To avoid this, always chew gum around them. Food tastes horrible after gum so you’ll have a good excuse to say no
- There are so many ways to burn off calories without really trying. Whenever possible, take the long route to your destination. If you have to deliver something, take two trips instead of one. This will force you to move longer, faster or both; thus burning more calories.
- Stop thinking that you’re deprived of that bite of chocolate or a cookie. How about being deprived of the chance to get to a skinnier you or fit into that smaller dress? Ever felt deprived of confidence of your body? Give yourself that chance now.
- I have a tip that works great for me to help me not eat, similar to the lemon water tip. When I feel hungry, I suck on a Vitamin C drop. They’re the same price as generic cough drops and have the same benefits as lemon juice. And a bonus: only 15 calories. Three a day is as filling (for me at least) as three big meals and that’s ONLY 45 calories for the whole day! They have different flavours too so it’s not boring.
- I just wanted to mention something that is really important for me and really helps resist temptation. Always look your best, always have your hair exactly how you want it and keep reapplying your make up through the day. Have your whole outfit perfect, whether you’re a goth girl or preppy or whatever. Always project a perfect image of who you are. Don’t skip your morning shower, or rush your make up. Getting up early to do these preparations will help you burn more calories anyway. When you feel perfectly presented, you won’t want to ruin that image by stuffing your face. You will feel more and more like perfection as you get better at presenting this perfect image, and as you get thinner. This goes for your room too, keep everything tidy and in its place. This helps with your control issues and gives you something active to do. When people notice this controlled perfection about you, they won’t care if you don’t eat much or often. They will see it as part of who you are, and be jealous that they don’t have the same self-control.
- Lower the temperature in your house by 10 degrees to burn more calories, or take an icy cold shower. Just as with drinking ice water, it will cause your body to burn calories while warming you back up.
- If you want to binge – distract yourself! Try decorating or organizing something. When I pick a project to do, it distracts my mind for a while and keeps me from thinking about food. Plus after I’m finished, I feel a great sense of accomplishment for what I just did. Still want to binge? Drink three big glasses of water. Really chug ‘em and I guarantee you’ll feel too sick to even eat.
- Exercise the first thing in the morning. And exercise every morning. Get up earlier than everyone else to exercise. This helps me in several ways:
- If you don’t know how many calories are in something, don’t eat it! If you absolutely must eat something that you don’t know the caloric content of, always go with it being much more than what you think it is. It’s better to think you’ve eaten more than you have than to think that you’ve eaten less.
- Food JUST SITS THERE. Whenever you feel like reaching for some food, take another look at it and you’ll come to realize that it just sits there. That cookie isn’t going to jump up at you and into your mouth. It is harmless. All you have to do is NOT reach for it and you’re safe. It’s not going to get at you if you leave it alone. Drink some water, and continue with your work.
- Whenever you feel hungry, try to visualize that gnawing feeling in your stomach in problem areas like your thighs. Imagining your fat being burned away will help give you motivation and to not eat for longer periods of time.
- Whenever you start to reach for that little snack you’re craving, first take a minute to finger that lovely xylophone, or those beautiful ribs that have found their way out. You don’t want to cover them up again, do you?
- COFFEE, COFFEE, COFFEE! It is a well known appetite suppressant. I honestly never feel hungry with it. The caffeine keeps you from feeling slow and lethargic when your calories are low and it hypes up your metabolism. If you can’t drink it straight black, try it with non-fat milk and Splenda. Honestly, I find that delicious and its my biggest savior whenever I have a craving. Before I eat anything in the morning and at lunch time I have a cup and I eat 10 x less.
- Drinking not enough water can hamper your weight loss efforts. That’s because dehydration can slow your metabolism by 3 percent, or about 45 few calories burned a day, which in a year could mean weighing 5 pounds more. The key to water isn’t how much you drink, it’s how frequently you drink it. Small amount sipped often work better than 8 ounces gulped down at once.
- ALWAYS number your bites! For example, say, “I’m only gonna eat ____ bites of this.” Then, use a smaller fork or spoon for the same number of bites. This way, you’re eating less without hardly trying!
- Find a drink and/or food you dislike that’s low in calories (for me it’s tea and bean sprouts) and keep some near/with you at all times. When you feel like raiding the fridge, tell yourself “I can eat something else after I’ve eaten/drunk this”. It usually takes a while to force yourself to eat something you hate so when you’re finally done, the time elapsed and the bad taste of the food can usually kill your appetite/craving. This also works while eating out: order a food you hate, so it’s less likely you’ll actually finish the plate.
- When I feel like eating something I try to imagine the ingredients. I usually think about all the fat, butter and sugar that is in it and then I don’t want to eat it anymore.
- Whenever you’re hungry snack on carrots or any other low-cal veggie. They fill you up so you don’t eat high-cal foods.
- One random tip that works great on weekends/at night is to paint your nails when you get one of those won’t go away cravings. If you use really thick layers of dark (dark dries slowest) polish (be sure to use base and top coat too!) it can take forever to dry – time where you literally can’t get anything to eat! Sometimes I won’t keep nail polish remover in the house – that way if I mess my nails up, I would have to go to work in the morning looking horrid.
- If you are having trouble losing those extra 5 pounds, try being a vegetarian or vegan. Think of all the poor little animals! Also, cutting out all of that fried, fattening meat will really help you with cutting out the calories
- Set aside a weekend morning to go through and try on your entire wardrobe. Then, take anything that is even remotely loose on you, fold it up, and send it to goodwill. This tip has three benefits: first, you’ll be motivated not to let yourself gain any weight; second, you’ll clear out the clutter from your drawers and closets; and third, you’ll be donating needed clothes to a worthy cause. A win all around!
- Drink a lot of liquids. i.e. tea, water, coffee. It flushes out your whole system and leaves you with a flatter stomach. Coffee tends to make me have to go #2 which helps shed the pounds. Hope this helps everyone like it helps me!
- I swear by spinach leaves. One cup has about 7 calories. I find that they fill me up very quickly. Another thing that’s amazing is Hunt’s Sugar Free Jelly. A cup has 5 calories, it’s low-fat, and it’s sweet.
- Watch videos on sites like YouTube of people bloating themselves or showing weight gain. It will make you feel disgusting, especially if you do it before eating.
- This probably sounds a little strange, but my tip is to get yourself tested for food allergies. Most people have some sort of mild allergy or intolerance like wheat or dairy. This will give you the perfect cast-iron excuse, as by bringing medical authority round to your side people are less likely to bother you. So the next time the office fat girl bakes birthday cupcakes and insists on shoving them in your face (“but they’re home-made”) you can just smile politely and say that regretfully (ha!) medical reasons prevent you from accepting her kind offer of lovingly home-baked sugar-crusted lard piles. Eventually, people will come to know you (at least behind your back) as “that skinny bitch with the food intolerance”, and will just stop trying. This also works well when dining out, since you can quiz the wait staff about the content of dishes with impunity.
- Have photos of your favourite models in beautiful, editorial shots on your bedroom wall. Then when people ask, it’s not thinspiration, it’s your interest in fashion photography and the surrounding arts. And if you find yourself tempted, go and look at your wall, trace their legs, arms, collarbones, and imagine what you would look like in that piece. Until you can say “as good as them” the temptation should die instantly.
- If you live with your parents (like I do) tell them you’re going to go vegan for charity for a month, two months, or some specific time frame. Not only does this cut out fattening dairy products, but most of what you can eat consists of fruit and vegetables – great for keeping skin nice, plus all the money you raise from sponsorship goes to a good cause of your choice – a win all round!
- I know many people crave to eat something right after their meal, here’s a great tip for them: While you’re making yourself a meal, (washing your salad, steaming your broccoli or whatever), always make a big cup of green tea as well. That way it is good and not too hot when you finished eating. When you drink it right after the meal you completely avoid all the cravings of eating more or having dessert! Don’t wait with making the tea till you finished eating, because if you do, you will have to wait until it’s good and that’s when the cravings come and you’ll have to control yourself.
- Take every chance you can to exercise and burn calories. Fidget whenever you’re sitting down, wiggle your foot, tap / clap your hands, play with your pen. Clench your butt muscles, or go up and down on your toes while waiting to cross the roads etc. Stand up whenever you can. Pace up and down while you wait for the bus/ train. Take stairs not the elevator and go up them two at a time. If you walk to work/ school/ the bus stop etc leave later than you need to so you’ll have to rush (which makes your heart beat faster and burns cals). Try to do a walk that takes 20 mins in 10 etc. Every time you go to the bath room do 5 – 10 star jumps or push ups against the door – and drink lots of water so you’ll have to go often, NEVER sit still. Even if you think you don’t have time to exercise – you do and every calorie you can burn adds up. You can see the difference in just a few days.
- Every day, eat about 2 sheets of Sushi Seaweed. Each sheet has only about 10 calories, and recent studies have found that a fibrous material in it, alginate, can reduce the body’s fat retention by 75%.
- I tell people I have an ulcer, so I have to be really selective about what I eat- and it is a great excuse for when you are with people and not eating- “My ulcer is bugging me!”
- Jelly Beans! They’re 4 calories a bean and have zero fat! They are a great pick me up with restricting because they give you a zap of energy.
- Firstly, you must have a reasonable meal plan e.g. 3 meals per day consisting of healthy, filling foods (fibre, protein, and carbs). If you’re starving, it’ll only lead to a binging from the restriction, so have at the very least 3 meals per day. This also ensures that your body’s metabolism will not slow down drastically. Then, anytime you feel like eating something but it isn’t mealtime yet, allow yourself to do ANYTHING else. Telling yourself not to eat isn’t going to work for a long time because you’re denying yourself something. But replacing it with something will do the trick. Obviously, if you’re a student, studying would be a good one. Losing weight and getting smarter sound like the perfect plan. You can also choose to do some exercises. But if you don’t feel like doing those at all, just allow yourself to do anything like watch a movie, play a computer game, read a book, paint your nails, use a face mask etc, because anything is better than pigging out, right? Pamper yourself and you’re well on your way to your goal weight.
- Make sure to check the soup aisle at the grocery store! Some people get cold a lot when they are dieting, and soup can be so comforting. It is also easy to open up a can of soup after a long day without a lot of preparation, when you might otherwise choose something less healthy. There are a lot of fatty soups with a lot of carbs and calories, but if you look for low fat or fat free, low sodium soups, you will find there are plenty with 60 to 100 calories per serving. It’s even easier to find these at the organic food stores. Some examples of soups I have found that are low in sodium, fat, and calories are certain tomato soups and vegetable soups. If you find a low fat low sodium free range chicken soup broth, or a vegetable soup broth, these can be even 15 calories a serving and you can add your own veggies.
- Drink a cup of warm vegetable broth about 10 minute before eating dinner. Doing this will give your brain enough time to signal to your body that you’ve consumed something, so you in turn eat less during that meal. Also, this helps cut the cravings and thus stop you from potentially binging. Here’s another tip too, instead of having an iced coffee during the day, prepare several cups of green tea, pour into ice trays and freeze for an hour. When the liquid starts to freeze, add popsicle sticks. These are great as a snack. I hear frozen grapes are also a great low calorie snack.
- It’s always important to maintain a cheerful outlook, but it’s ESPECIALLY important if you’re trying to lose weight; depression and boredom lead to binging. Make sure to cultivate hobbies that genuinely interest you – the more active, the better.
- Similarly, if you feel a craving for something unhealthy come on, try distracting yourself with something fun and enjoyable. Go for a walk in the park if it’s a nice day; have a mug of tea by the fireplace if it’s cold out; read a chapter from a book by your favourite author; or even just watch a funny YouTube video. Trust me, doing any of those things will leave you feeling way better than a chocolate-chip cookie ever could.
- Remember – there’s nothing prettier than a sexy, skinny girl with a great, genuine smile!
- When you’re feeling hungry or craving something particular put in some teeth whitening strips. They usually restrict you from eating or drinking anything for a half hour or so, which gives you time to think about why you shouldn’t eat. As an added bonus, your teeth will be brighter and you’ll be giving yourself a smile boost! I’ve found that Crest Whitestrips are a good brand to use for this because you use them once a day for roughly twenty days (depending on which pack you get).
- I spend a fair amount of time on the computer, so I keep the calculator application open at all times. Any time I eat something I put in the number of calories I just had; that way I keep up with how much I’ve eaten and can make better decisions accordingly.
- When you’re in the kitchen preparing food (for other people, of course), make sure you have some thinspirational music playing in the background – that will stop you from tasting, pinching and snacking.
- If you are really hungry, buy a bag of low fat, low calorie hard candies. When you suck on them a lot your stomach will tell you that you are full.
- Weigh yourself as often as you like, with or without clothes etc. It can’t vary that much anyway – just get used to the minor fluctuations with your clothes on, or even your jeans on. This will keep you on guard all day and remind you of your goal more often. Then set your long-term goal but don’t focus your energies on it. Focus on the NEXT weight (one lb or one kg down from your current weight). If you’re 98 lbs, think of how to get to 97 lbs etc. When you’re finally at that goal, then shift your focus to the next lb/kg down. This will make weight loss so much easier because it’s easier to plan how to reach your next goal, and you’ll feel happier and accomplished so much more often. All you have to think about is how to get to the next lb/kg down.
- I know many of you probably have written down your CW, HW, LW, 1st GW, 2nd GW, Final GW etc, but I found that when I was losing weight, going down each lb/kg one by one kept me on track much more easily than having a 1st/2nd GW (usually 6lbs/3kg down) which is most of the time still a bit too far away. Maybe it’s just me and my impatience!
- Salsa! It has approx. 10 calories in a serving, and it’s delicious. I eat it with a teaspoon. And the chilli in it will speed up your metabolism too!
- If you live with you parents or someone who is concerned about your eating habits, make sure you take full advantage of the time you have alone in your living space. You can do small things such as adjusting your kitchen to make it appear as though you’ve eaten (dirtying dishes / leaving certain foods out / baking etc).
- If you really need to lose that annoying 5-10 pounds (or more), but can’t seem to motivate yourself, focus your mind on an upcoming event / special occasion that you’d like to look good for. This probably seems like an obvious thing to do but when you’re struggling to stay on track, having something to work for can be just the thing you need. Whether it be a birthday or a simple outing, plan to the last detail exactly how you would like it to go. Even if things don’t turn out the way you’d hoped, it won’t matter because you’ll ultimately be on a weight loss high.
- If you need to bake muffins or cakes, etc. and will be eating some, for various reasons, you can lower the calories by doing these things:
- Clean house! Get busy “hoeing and throwing,” go through old stuff and purge out what you don’t wear, don’t want, don’t need anymore. Dust. Vaccuum. Scrub. Keep busy! It engages the attention and keeps the thoughts off food. If you’re a teen, your mom will be amazed and VERY grateful, so grateful she’ll forget to nag you about food! If you’re an adult, you’ll thank yourself when you’re done!
- Put on some music and dance! Or keep the tunes rolling while you clean house, it keeps the work from getting boring and you can boogie while you sweat!
Fat-burning will definitely occur because you haven’t had breakfast.
It “wakes” you up, and you won’t feel lethargic for the rest of the day and end up reaching for food.
You feel more in control because you’ve done something that most other people have no will power to do – getting up earlier to exercise. This has ripple effects on your confidence for the rest of the day.
You wouldn’t want to “ruin” your exercise by overeating later. This is as opposed to exercising at night, when it simply feels like you’re “cancelling out” what you’ve eaten for the day.
If you can’t seem to muster up enough energy in the morning, simply take a nice walk. The weather’s cooling and perfect in the mornings.
A way some people try to distract themselves is with counting activities. If they don’t have anything to do for a while, but they’re afraid they might binge, they go outside and lay under a tree and try to count all the leaves. It is an impossible task, but it is good to keep your mind off of food. And maybe looking at the leaves will make you just want to have a salad instead. Warning: probably not a good tip for someone with OCD.
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